05 August 2013

Grapes Are Sweet

We often tend to sound pretty mawkish under situations beyond our forbearance and control. We tend to develop a shield against the uncontrollably growing mechanism of perforation of goodness by the ills around us that we consider, are detrimental to our lives. But the question is, are the ills really ruinous for us? Are they not necessary? What is the meaning of the good, when the evil doesn't exist? I remember having read it somewhere that the evil is created by the good, to get itself recognized as something important and unique among a herd of identical species. “Daag achhe hain”(Stains are Good)- Consider that simple advertisement of Surf Excel that promoted its product by praising “daag”-Stains. Can stains ever be good? Yet the ad has been highly applauded, accepted and of course, the product is a hit! A simple philosophy of “respecting” the “sentiments” of one’s enemy has been highlighted in the ad and hence, it clicked! Jealousy, the green eyed monster, captured our poor Jackal who coined the historic phrase, “Grapes are Sour”. The story explained: if you don’t achieve what you want, you tend to negate it, dislike it or rebuke it by finding flaws in it deliberately. Isn't it obvious? This is a natural human tendency to negate the unachievable, to restore the peace of mind. But, it isn't healthy ;-) The above two paragraphs actually explained two absolutely opposite approaches of dealing with the negative emotions of hatred, jealousy, etc., where most of us fail in life. Reconciling from unexpected downfalls and adapting to some unwanted facts of life have always been the most challenging tasks for the intelligent mammals, because they are connected with Emotions- the brutal mastermind of all “mishaps” on earth!:-/ What if we modify our attitudes towards the “sour grapes” a little, in such a way that they can merge with the “stains are good” logic? In other words, what if we channelize our negative frequencies in a positive direction? Helps us feel good, and shall be healthy too! Consider your rival becoming your motivator to push you beyond the edges- not to fall down, but to rebuild and rejuvenate yourself! Respect the talent in them, accept that they are good. Accept that the Grapes are Sweet, but you cannot reach them-today.Tomorrow, you may achieve them with ease. A hopeful future is much better than a sulking present. Philosophies are the easiest things to quote and the most difficult ones to follow. Agreed! But once we tend to comprehend the lurking concept of it, it indeed helps us positively.“If you can’t find the solution to a problem, then you are the problem”! Never be your own problem.Solve them! Avoid things that disturb you, not by negating them, but by believing that “Grapes are sweet”- and you will taste them one day! :-)

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